Do I believe they work? Yes… Do I believe they are for me.. Well the answer to that I don’t really know. We have had it a few times and it has left me feeling different on the separate occasions. I know that most people do maintenance as a pre-scheduled thing.. Once a week or every other week or whatever… My husband and I tried doing it weekly for awhile and on the weeks when I was having a hard time being submissive it seemed to really help to get me centered.
However on the weeks when I felt like I had been really good it made me so angry… I felt like I was being punished (Although I know it’s not a punishment) for doing what I was supposed to. I am a big cause and effect person and everything had to make sense in my head for me to accept it. So it made me think that maybe maintenance isn’t really the best for my relationship, maybe submission spankings would be better… Especially on those weeks where I have literally walked on the edge of that line. You know the ones… Where he is aggravated at your behavior but, you haven’t really done anything to “break the rules”.
What works in your relationship? Does it leave you feeling submissive or the very opposite? Hope everyone is having a great weekend!
I never would have believed it. At the beginning we only did punishment spankings and I didn’t think that would change. Now we do almost all maintenance and punishment happens when needed. It does leave me submissive because it is essentially a long conversation. It gets us ready for a new week together and the one we do on Thursdays tends to be more of a stress releaser. It’s really kind of fascinating how it works…every couple is of course different, but there are common elements.
Wow! It’s definitely different that you do maintenance more than punishment. I wonder how that works for how often you are spanked… I bruise fairly easy and my husband only has one type of spanking… Hard! Lol…
Sundays and Thursdays unless something forces us to reschedule. He uses a leather paddle most of the time and has learned how to slow things down and not go so hard. Used carefully, leather won’t bruise me. Punishments involve a wood paddle and are a lot harder. Thankfully they are becoming more and more rare.
I have always believed that the moment when a bride say’s “I do”, at the altar, it is the bridegroom’s first duty as a husband, to carry out immediatly giving his ever loving wife her first maintenance spanking. So up should go the bridal gown, down should come the panties, and blushing bare bottom should be the result.
Yes, I know walking along the thin wall feeling really well unfortunately and I usually do this when I am looking for something….something that I don’t know how to express.
I find the “confession” works for me, rather than maintance. I confess that something is wrong, something is off, I’ve lost my center and he brings it back.